The Premise of the Bad Girls Club Show:

The Premise of the Bad Girls Club show is that seven girls are thrown into a mansion under one roof.  Roommates are from all different backgrounds, with different personalities, and all with some kind of behavioral or physiological issue.  Each is supposed to be there to learn from their experience at the Bad Girls Club.  To help them grow to be normal functioning young ladies in society.  Hopefully by seeing how other girls like them behave, each would realize how badly they act and will then change their bad ways/out-of-control lifestyle.  However, the show has changed a bit over time (this is season 8) most of them appear on the show to make a celebrity name for themselves and make a little bit of money by doing public appearances and spin-off shows like Bad Girls Love Games (where 50 men compete for the hearts of 3 former Bad Girls Club Cast members).

A Response to a Friends ?

I talked with my girlfriend from North Carolina yesterday and as girlfriends we were getting caught up with each other’s lives especially now she’s so far away.  Since moving to North Carolina I don’t get a chance to see or talk with her everyday but we try and make an effort to talk at least once a twice every few weeks.  After we chit-chatted about the husbands, crazy kids and the demands of work and school our conversation quickly turns to reality shows.  Since she admitted she’s been working countless hours of overtime and missed the last two episodes of the show I was trying to get her up to speed on what’s happening with the new season of Basketball Wives.  Basketball Wives is one of the shows I know she and I both watch and enjoy.  We both get a kick out of Shaunie O’Neil (Shaq’s ex-wife) and her group of basketball ex's crazy antics.  Our favorite, Tammy Roman a former roommate on the 1993 reality show, The Real World Los Angeles on MTV and former wife of NBA player Kenny Anderson is just a loudmouth, tell it like it is, feisty, know-it-all.  She so reminds me of my mother’s sister Aunt Joanne and Tessa’s grandmother Lil May.  Let’s just say these women (May, Joanne and Tammy) don’t play if they don’t like something you will hear about it (whether you want to or not)!    

Like me Tess is a full-time mother and professional working woman so Reality TV is one of our common bonds (so I thought).  After discussing the opening season of Basketball Wives I tried to move on to a few more shows like Top Chef, Real Housewives of Atlanta, and Kim and Kourtney Take New York.  These were shows we had talked about before (at least in past seasons) or referenced we were going to watch in the near future so it actually irritated me quite a bit when again she wasn’t up on what’s going on in the shows (I thought this was our thing).  I said to her “I thought you watched these shows?”And she replied “every once in a while but it’s not something I do on a regular”.  Then the phone got awkwardly silent for a few moments so much so that I thought we got disconnected for a second.  Then she asked, why do you watch so much realty TV, it’s like all you watch?  First, I thought to myself…that’s sooo not true!  Her tone almost made me feel ashamed like I was watching too much porn or something.  Then I felt like I had to justify why I like and watch something to my best friend when I thought this was one of the things we had in common.  Something I thought she shared passion for as well but I guess I was wrong.  I defensively answered “because I just do”!  I made some BS excuse about my youngest needed to take his bath and got off the phone.  The conversion with Tess left me feeling judged like I was some idiot box that couldn’t comprehend anything but low brow television entertainment.  I sat there washing my child in the tub he’s chatting away about the bad kids who don’t listen in his class and I was trying to listen (well not really).  I was thinking to myself of course I watch other television programming but reality TV is something I really enjoy and I don’t think I should feel guilty about that.  As I’m drying off the little one and putting on pajamas I kept asking myself, why do I watch so much realty TV? 

I started thinking about all of my personal issues and the never ending mounds of responsibility that I’ve acquired over the last 4 years.  Not many people outside of my family and really close circle of friends really know what’s really going on in my personal life.  Not only am I a full-time mother (with my third child on the way), student, wife but I’m also one of two caregivers for my disabled parents.  I say the care giving job is part-time but really that ish is a full-time job.  Back in 2006 my mother started going blind due to her diabetes being out of control.  Her eyesight got so bad so quick that that in 2008 she was forced to retire because she couldn’t see to perform her job.  For a few years it was my mother who was the sick one on top of being blind, having diabetes, she has high blood pressure, and heart issues.  We never worried about my dad because he was strong, active, ornery, confident, mobile, still about his wits.  Then all of a sudden in 2009 my father got seriously ill, all at the same time my dad (also a diabetic) had a heart attack, stroke, and kidney failure.  My family wasn’t sure he was going to make it but somehow he pulled through with the help of several months of family support, hospital care, and rehab stay.  A year later my dad had a small sore on his foot and he was so afraid of being hospitalized again that he didn’t let anyone know.  Diabetics don’t heal as quickly as everyone else so a minor cut or scrape if not properly cleaned and cared for can become infected with gangrene and require amputation.  Well that’s what happened to my father, from an infection from a small cut on his big toe it caused him to lose his leg, his foot and toes.  He’s an amputee from the calf down and he hasn’t been the same man since the illnesses and amputation has taken over his life.

I can’t begin to tell you how stressful taking care of two fairly young parents can be.  Not only do I come on Tuesdays and Thursday’s to help clean their home, I also manage all of their finances.  I pay the mortgage, cable, rehab bills, real-estate taxes, life insurance, all utilities, bank deposits, cell phone bills, food shopping, credit card bills, landscaping and handyman work, etc…  Sometime it’s so stressful I need an escape and Reality TV provides that escape for me.  I need entertainment where I don’t have to analyze anything to let my brain relax and my body release.  To see other people go through their real life drama and so I can be relieved from mine own.  Maybe for just an hour I’m living the life through those I watch.  The Real Housewives are ultra rich women with big houses, shiny things, and a pampered life.  Watching the Real Housewives of ATL somehow I share in their pampered life.  As I watch the show I’m right alongside Phaedra, Ne-Ne, Kandy, Sheree, and Cynthia on their luxury African Safari vacation.  I don’t think about how I’m going to finish two papers by Friday, pick my dad up from Dialysis, force my mom to eat after she takes her insulin, balance their personal bills and still have enough for the mortgage, give my husband and kids the attention they need and deal with morning sickness.  There are times I don’t think I look attractive because of baby weight gain so I pop on a little RuPaul’s Drag Race and watch the men transform into divas and serve up a side of Fierce!  I love to hear RuPaul say “the time has come for you to lip-sync for your life and don’t Fu%k it up”.  Ru always helps me shake off the baby weight blues.  There are men in his competition over400 pounds that deliver gorgeousness each episode, this show just make me feel good and smile .

Sometimes my anger is at its boiling point because I feel like in my parents I have two additional kids that are stubborn and don't listen.  Don’t get me wrong I love my parents and I do what I do for them because I love them and I’m their daughter.  But ask yourself how many 37 year olds are taking care of their 59 and 61 year old young parents.  I feel like sometimes I don’t get a break because they’re so ill and require so much time and attention.  I surely can’t ask mom to watch the kids for me while I hang out.  She can’t even do the most basic action without falling or hurting herself.  How is my mom going to cook for the kids or call for pizza when she can’t see? I’m also afraid she’ll let her sugar dip too low (this happens when diabetics don't eat shortly after taking their insulin) and pass out with my children right there.  So I need the Mob Wives famous cat fights to get my aggression down and out.  Watching these women fight on this show is way better than taking it (my frustration with so many responsibilities) out on my family members.  My kids don’t deserve to be snapped at because I’m stressed over Nana and Papa’s bills and health my parents don’t deserved to be snapped at because I’m stressed about school and illnesses they didn’t ask for.  Plus sometimes it’s just nice to see that the rich and fab have drama just like everybody else.

Now you’re probably saying if she’s your girlfriend wouldn’t she know about your parents issues? Yes but I don’t think she’s associated my inner peace and release with watching reality TV.  Honestly I really didn’t make the connection until she asked me last night why I watch so much reality TV.  Some say reality TV really isn’t real, I really don’t care, as long as it gives me the escape, release and balance I need in my everyday life then I’ll keep on watching.

Bad Girls Club Season 8: New Elease on Life

Last Week the 6 original girls make a pack to attacked Elease, the new girl to try and get her out of the house quick. But Elease is a tough chick she’s definitely maintaining her ground and not taking any of the girls’ bull ish.  After a few days of torture Erica, Gia, Amy and Demetria (aka MiMi) are starting to respect Elease for sticking up for herself and not being a chump and running away but the twins want to keep the drama going.  They call the girls out saying they’re acting fake for not sticking to the plan and they plan on getting Elease out the house with or without their help.

I'm going to say this...UMM they really need to let it go!  Elease is nobody’s chump and I got a feeling the twins are about to get a much needed and overdue ass whipping!  I'm saying it first right here at RealityTvMe.

Here is a clip of Elease vs. the entire BGC house. 

All I'm going to say is 6 on 1 not cool.

Braxton Family Values - Drama Drama and More Drama!

Quick update on the show: Drama, Drama and more Drama for the Braxton Sisters.

Trina and Gabe, her husband has officially separated…Not a Shocker!  After a year of therapy for Gabe’s cheating ways Trina has caught her husband cheating again with some random woman online.  She found a video of him and the woman and they engaged in cybersex but here is the kicker, the woman was trying to blackmail Gabe on the sex video she had of him.  WOW! After that information, Trina made it clear to Gabe they’re separated and she’s taking off her ring and making arrangements to move on.

I feel you Trina, you can't allow Gabe to keep cheating and taking him back.  Sometimes you just have to cut your losses especially when you've done all you can to save the marriage.

Tamar is having a rough time dealing with Vince being sick; for once she’s taking care of someone else besides herself.  Vince and Tamar were in NY on Lady Gaga business and during their stay Vince was rushed to the hospital for pain in his back and legs.  Only to find out that he has some kind of blood clots that is threatening his life.  The family flies into NY for a few days to give support to Tamar and Vince.  I’m hoping the big Teddy pulls through, I love Vince.   In this episode you definitely get to see the love between Tamar and Vince and know how much they really love each other (especially those who think Ta married Vince for money).

A clip of Trina and Tamar's drama this week!

Spoiler for Next week, somebody in the Braxton Family is getting married.

Bad Girls Club Season 8 "Jenna takes on the house" (Episodes 3)

Episode 3: Jenna's Leaves the Club
A Quick rundown on what happened with Jenna.  Last week it all started with the bad girls' went out to a bar to hang out and drink.  The night started out okay but tension soon started to build with the group of ladies when Jenna met a guy and after the club she was taking a little too long to get a number. The girls didn't like her taking up so much time so they started bitchin about it.  They decided to leave Jenna's @$$ parking lot pimpin at the club with the guy she was talking to at the club.  Soon after the Bad Girls Limo arrives home and Jenna is right behind them with the guy she met.  Now really late or should I say early in the morning Jenna and her guest are making a ridiculous amount of noise and the roommates start coming out of the woodwork like roaches to voice their complaints. Jenna goes crazy as the girls bombard her with thier complaints and she starts busting up the house and is taken to a hotel to cool off for the night.

The girls at this point have had a enough of Jenna's BS and decide to provoke her to get a reaction so she will have no choice but to fight and leave the house. So the next day Erica, the twins and Gia decide to dump all her stuff over the banister onto the floor (clothes, shoes,  make-up, curling iron, tooth brush...all of it), cut-up girlfriend's extensions, and throw her bed into the pool.  Not cool but that's the Bad Girls Club!

Of course like any person would, Jenna goes crazy after finding her stuff destroyed and her bed in the pool.  She falls right into the girls trap and tries to rip off the faces of Erica, the twins and Gia all at the same time and goes down, let's just say she gets her @$$ kicked and still ends kicked out of the house.

I must say that Jenna was a little annoying and not one of my favorites but I didn't think she deserved getting kicked out the club in season 8. I just think that the girls (Erica, Danni/Danielle "the twins" and Gia) didn't like her and just wanted her gone.  Personally I think Amy should've gone home before Jenna.  The first night this bad girl was fighting with Gia, fighting with Demitria, arguing with the twins.  However, I think Amy makes for a better show/TV than Jenna so I can see why she had to go. 

As Swizz Beatz says "On To To The Next One"! 
In episode 4 we meet the newest member of the Bad Girls Club, Elease!  Let's see if this chick can stand up to the ladies and stick it out to the end.

This clip is the start of Jenna's downfall in the house.

Braxton’s Family Value – “Desert Divas Episode” 2-2-12

Tonight was another heated family therapy session with Dr. Sherry and the 5 sisters (Toni, Trina, Towanda, Traci and Tamar). 

In therapy Traci was unfairly targeted by Toni regarding her weight gain.  Traci is the tallest and thickest out of the 5 sisters; most of the other sisters are really petite in stature.  Her body isn’t structured like the other girls and she carries her weight different (hips, thighs and face) but yet and still Tony was acting like Traci was obese and that she looked just absolutely horrible (which isn’t the case) in appearance.  I really liked Toni Braxton before the show started and I still do but not as much as I like her other sisters.  Sometimes I feel like Toni is too bitchy and acts like she's better than her little sisters because of her star status.  I find her personality boring and her attitude about her sisters, the show and their joint business ventures very poor.  Her appearance on the show has definitely turned me off from her as a person.

Trina painfully tells Towanda in therapy that she and her family have to move out and find their own place to live because their presence at Trina's is causing drama between she and her husband Gabe.  Their marriage is on rocky soil already due to Gabe’s numerous infidelities over the years and Towanda and her husband are causing even more friction between Trina and her husband.

After therapy, tonight the girls decide to go to a retreat together in Arizona to reconnect as sisters and stop the bickering.  Again, Toni doesn’t participate in most of the outings and does her own diva thing…AGAIN! Disappointing because the other 4 who did participate all agreed it was a great bonding experience that Toni missed out on.  Toni decides to go to the spa instead of horseback riding and gun slinging with the girls, she’s so whack.  I wish she'd get present with the sisters and the show this season.

Tamar, the baby and the most vocal sister (I love her) is married to Vince Herbert, he’s the super manager of Lady GaGa and other high profile recording artist.  She is the only one who puts Toni on blast for not living up to her end of the bargain of coming together as sisters and not participating in the sister events.  I'm going to pull a Tamar saying right now...Toni's attitude is NOTHOT.COM.